Love the skin you're in...

The other night i was in the club and i saw something that sparked the idea for this blog. There was a heavy set girl with some small clothes on. Before you start laughing, I'm not trying to make fun of big women, but in my opinion, something needs to be said.

For many years, women have gone to many extremes to be considered beautiful. In Thailand, women wear long bracelets to elongate their necks, in France, rich women used to wear corsets to show their curves, in Africa, women would get piercing and elaborate dresses to show off their beauty. Today, society portrays the "ideal woman" as super skinny with nice long hair. I don't know whose ideals those were but they are becoming the ideals of many people today.

Women, all shapes and sizes are doing what they can to try to fit this persona. This is where I step in and say, love the skin you're in. How happy can a woman be when she's going to these extremes to look like something she isn't. Now, back to this girl from the club. I feel like she squeezed into those clothes to try to fit that "ideal woman" image, but those clothes weren't fitting her. Sometimes I can't but feel sorry for some of these women because they don't like themselves and are sometimes going to drastic measures to fit this "image."

Get Me Bodied

Throughout history, the sexuality of African Americans have been hypersexualized, where their bodies have been flaunted all through the media, but more specifically the male. Not only have black men been hypersexualized, but they have embodied this hypersexuality. What is it about the super sexual nature that makes us men want to exhibit our sexuality in such a manner?

Well lets take a step back, a large step back. Back to the days of slavery. During the slave trade, the white master would get the male slave with the largest genital, take him to a breeding room, and make him mate with a young girl. While on the plantations, the wives of slave masters would have sex with the strongest black man on the plantation behind her husband's back to fulfill her sexual fantasies.

We see through these two acts of selection that other men that didn't meet these qualifications may have sought to do so. Throughout the duration of time, it has been innately implanted in us because after seeing it once, each generation has wanted to accomplish something greater than that of the last. This is evident in today's culture; men try to meet or surpass the bodily characteristics of the men before them.